Thursday, December 30, 2010
Bullying:An Act of Terrorism: Bullying vs Terrorism
Bullying:An Act of Terrorism: Bullying vs Terrorism: "The definition of terrorism is the systematic use of terror especially as a means of coercion. The definition of a bully is a blustering bro..."
Bullying vs Terrorism
The definition of terrorism is the systematic use of terror especially as a means of coercion.
The definition of a bully is a blustering browbeating person;especially:one habitually cruel to others who are weaker or a hired ruffian.
There's not really much difference in the two.Both use words or physical violence to create fear.Words are the deadliest though.The physical violence leaves scars yes,but is a lot easier to deal with and fight than the hurt and pain caused by words.The old saying 'Sticks and stones may break my bones,but words will never hurt me' is not true.Words hurt more and cut deeper than a knife.
During any war our country has been involved in,each side used propaganda to place fear into the other side.It was words that struck fear.The US always put out non threatening papers to the civilian populations while the other side put out fear inspiring propaganda.
Hitler used propaganda to instill fear in the German people.He told them that war was coming and he was the only one who could win the war.He never said he could stop it but he could win it.The Japanese told their people that our troops would rape and murder them.So when our troops got to some of the Japanese villages,the people committed suicide out of fear of being raped and murdered.All of this was done with words.
It's no different with bullies.They use words to instill fear in our young people.Fear of getting beat up,or physically hurt in some way.Bullies use words like stupid,retard,queer and faggot.The bullies spread rumors about others to hide their own shortcomings.All done with words.Once words are spoken, they can't be taken back.Neither can bombs,gunshots,punches or anything of that nature.
We are all guilty of using words to hurt someone at one time or another.Sometimes we forgive some mean words spoken out of hurt or anger.Sometimes,we feed on the hurt making things worse.This is what sustains bullies.The need to feed on other people's pain.This is what makes the bullies feel strong and better than others.
It is the constant chatter of hurtful words, spoken on a daily basis,that causes our young people to feel inferior to others.It is the constant badgering of bullies,that causes our young people to commit suicide.It's all WORDS.Sometimes it's acts that others do,but for the most part it's just words that prove to be deadly.
The definition of a bully is a blustering browbeating person;especially:one habitually cruel to others who are weaker or a hired ruffian.
There's not really much difference in the two.Both use words or physical violence to create fear.Words are the deadliest though.The physical violence leaves scars yes,but is a lot easier to deal with and fight than the hurt and pain caused by words.The old saying 'Sticks and stones may break my bones,but words will never hurt me' is not true.Words hurt more and cut deeper than a knife.
During any war our country has been involved in,each side used propaganda to place fear into the other side.It was words that struck fear.The US always put out non threatening papers to the civilian populations while the other side put out fear inspiring propaganda.
Hitler used propaganda to instill fear in the German people.He told them that war was coming and he was the only one who could win the war.He never said he could stop it but he could win it.The Japanese told their people that our troops would rape and murder them.So when our troops got to some of the Japanese villages,the people committed suicide out of fear of being raped and murdered.All of this was done with words.
It's no different with bullies.They use words to instill fear in our young people.Fear of getting beat up,or physically hurt in some way.Bullies use words like stupid,retard,queer and faggot.The bullies spread rumors about others to hide their own shortcomings.All done with words.Once words are spoken, they can't be taken back.Neither can bombs,gunshots,punches or anything of that nature.
We are all guilty of using words to hurt someone at one time or another.Sometimes we forgive some mean words spoken out of hurt or anger.Sometimes,we feed on the hurt making things worse.This is what sustains bullies.The need to feed on other people's pain.This is what makes the bullies feel strong and better than others.
It is the constant chatter of hurtful words, spoken on a daily basis,that causes our young people to feel inferior to others.It is the constant badgering of bullies,that causes our young people to commit suicide.It's all WORDS.Sometimes it's acts that others do,but for the most part it's just words that prove to be deadly.
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Bullying and its Effect on Our Youth
It is only recently that bullying has come to light as a major problem.Bullying has been around as long as man has,so it's really nothing new.Many people think that the recent deaths of some victims of this epidemic is a tragedy.It's not.It's outright terrorism.
Bullying is terrorism.Bullies terrorize our young people on a daily basis and we know nothing of it.Why not? Because our children don't talk to us and we don't talk to them.Most of us grew up learning to deal with school life on our own.An attempt to 'teach us' on how to deal with the real world.But at what cost?
I've said this before and I'll keep saying it until someone listens,there is no way of knowing how many suicides are directly caused by bullying.Even in death our children and young adults are AFRAID of the ridicule of being bullied.I don't have all the answers on preventing bullying,I don't think anyone does.But we have to start somewhere.
One way to start is TALK to your children.Ask them every day 'How was school? Are you having any problems with anyone in particular?' Now they may not be forthcoming right away but that's just kids.They have a need to prove to us, and themselves,that they can handle problems on their own.In most cases this would be true.
Be active in your child's school activities.Talk with your child's teachers.If there is a problem with the school don't put it off,deal with it right away.If your child is being bullied,find out the name of the child and report him/her/them to the police.You will need to speak to a juvenile officer for the police report.Many schools deal with bullying in their own way.In school suspensions,which leaves the bully in school to further terrorize others.
Out of school suspensions,which is really what the bully wants because they don't want to be in school anyway.Talking to the bullies parents,which doesn't really do a lot because the kids probably bully the parents too or the parents are bullies themselves.Many schools have adopted Bully Free Zones.One school that I know of in my area,is using a box system.The students are allowed to leave notes in boxes throughout the school,anonymously of course,with the bullies name on it.So far it seems to be working.
Signs that your child maybe being bullied include but are not limited to; withdrawing from family activities,a drop in grades,dropping a favorite after school activity such as dance,cheer leading,football,baseball and so on.You know how your child acts at home,pay attention to slight changes in behavior.Look,I know we are all busy with day to day life,but we brought these children into this world to love and care for.We,as parents have to do every thing in our power to ensure their safety no matter where they are.
I know,we can't watch them 24/7.And what about the schools' responsibility to watch our children during school hours?The real responsibility starts at HOME.School IS NOT A BABYSITTER while we are at work.The school's job is to TEACH our children the necessary tools to succeed in life.Most schools have a ratio of 30:1.That's 30 students to 1 teacher.Have you tried being around 30 kids at one time? I have.Believe me it's not easy.
Be aware of the schools bullying policies.Make sure the school has a policy where you will be notified immediately of any problems no matter how trivial or small it may seem.If you can,show up at school uninvited and just observe the school setting,especially at recess or gym classes.Go sit in your child's classes for a couple of hours a week or day if there's a serious problem.
Just talk to your kids about bullying.Make sure your kids aren't afraid to talk to you about anything.Be active in your child's activities at school and after.It's up to us parents to try and stop this bullying before more of our future is lost to suicides.
Bullying is terrorism.Bullies terrorize our young people on a daily basis and we know nothing of it.Why not? Because our children don't talk to us and we don't talk to them.Most of us grew up learning to deal with school life on our own.An attempt to 'teach us' on how to deal with the real world.But at what cost?
I've said this before and I'll keep saying it until someone listens,there is no way of knowing how many suicides are directly caused by bullying.Even in death our children and young adults are AFRAID of the ridicule of being bullied.I don't have all the answers on preventing bullying,I don't think anyone does.But we have to start somewhere.
One way to start is TALK to your children.Ask them every day 'How was school? Are you having any problems with anyone in particular?' Now they may not be forthcoming right away but that's just kids.They have a need to prove to us, and themselves,that they can handle problems on their own.In most cases this would be true.
Be active in your child's school activities.Talk with your child's teachers.If there is a problem with the school don't put it off,deal with it right away.If your child is being bullied,find out the name of the child and report him/her/them to the police.You will need to speak to a juvenile officer for the police report.Many schools deal with bullying in their own way.In school suspensions,which leaves the bully in school to further terrorize others.
Out of school suspensions,which is really what the bully wants because they don't want to be in school anyway.Talking to the bullies parents,which doesn't really do a lot because the kids probably bully the parents too or the parents are bullies themselves.Many schools have adopted Bully Free Zones.One school that I know of in my area,is using a box system.The students are allowed to leave notes in boxes throughout the school,anonymously of course,with the bullies name on it.So far it seems to be working.
Signs that your child maybe being bullied include but are not limited to; withdrawing from family activities,a drop in grades,dropping a favorite after school activity such as dance,cheer leading,football,baseball and so on.You know how your child acts at home,pay attention to slight changes in behavior.Look,I know we are all busy with day to day life,but we brought these children into this world to love and care for.We,as parents have to do every thing in our power to ensure their safety no matter where they are.
I know,we can't watch them 24/7.And what about the schools' responsibility to watch our children during school hours?The real responsibility starts at HOME.School IS NOT A BABYSITTER while we are at work.The school's job is to TEACH our children the necessary tools to succeed in life.Most schools have a ratio of 30:1.That's 30 students to 1 teacher.Have you tried being around 30 kids at one time? I have.Believe me it's not easy.
Be aware of the schools bullying policies.Make sure the school has a policy where you will be notified immediately of any problems no matter how trivial or small it may seem.If you can,show up at school uninvited and just observe the school setting,especially at recess or gym classes.Go sit in your child's classes for a couple of hours a week or day if there's a serious problem.
Just talk to your kids about bullying.Make sure your kids aren't afraid to talk to you about anything.Be active in your child's activities at school and after.It's up to us parents to try and stop this bullying before more of our future is lost to suicides.
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